Archive for July, 2008
Who am I to help you through this difficult time?
Like everybody else, I too have suffered heartbreak. I have had my heart broken three times. Nothing unusual there, but what is perhaps unusual is that it was the same guy all three times!
Now, despite evidence to the contrary (ie going back to him), I am a smart woman. So the last time, I decided it had to be THE LAST time. I think we can safely assume that the first two times, I got over him enough to function again, even to love again but I certainly wasn’t OVER him. I had to find a way of making it for good this time. With no going back.
I know what I’m talking about when I say that losing your love can be devastating. The last time left me with no job, in a strange city, in a country I hadn’t lived in for twenty-five years! At first, I was in total shock, unable to think, crying all the time. Not only the future I had dreamed of no longer existed, but the present and the past too were doubtful. When you no longer have the future you had invested in, you doubt the past. Was it all an illusion? Did I not understand anything? What did I do wrong?
Fortunately for me, I’m not only a smart woman, I am resourceful. I had a huge task in front of me. It felt as if I had to rebuild my entire life. At first I needed to understand why this had happened to me. I threw myself into some research. I read loads of books, I surfed the Net and I went to therapy. I read books on love, on heartbreak, on relationships, on psychology, on rebuilding your life, on changing your life, on understanding men. I talked, I cried and I listened.
I learnt a lot. About relationships, about men, about women, about why we are attracted to the men we are attracted to and why we are the way we are.
I’ll give you insights and tips that will make the process easier and faster. I’ll help you everyday. Believe me, one day you will feel better, the pain will go away. But it isn’t always straightforward. Sometimes you’ll backslide but that doesn’t matter, we’ll get there in the end. I hope we’ll have fun on the way.
